One thing we always consider in finding “the One” is that he/she should be someone who loves you with all his/her heart. But this time, let’s consider the other way around: someone you can love with all your heart.
This just came up to me this morning in considering “the One”. We always overlook this one because we always think that it’s an obvious thing that you love the other person that’s why you’re choosing that person. But, is it really the case?
Sometimes, we think that we love someone because every hormone in our body tells us that we do love that person. But in the long run, you just find yourself falling out of love, or losing interest, or regretting your decision of marrying that person because of one thing: you don’t really love that person. When we’re in love, everything is just amplified and most of us tend to forget assessing our real feelings. Needy/clingy persons think they love their significant other because, well, they associate their happiness with them, which, I don’t think is considered love.
They say love is different from being in love. Love is more profound and certainly more than just the butterflies in your stomach. It is said that when you marry, you marry the one you love and stay in love as you continue your love story as a married couple. When you’re marrying a person just because you’re simply in love with the person, sooner or later, the feelings will subside, and you’ll find yourself not in love with the person anymore. They say a married couple can only stay in romantic love for about a year (sorry, I forgot how long it is really, but there are studies that show that married couples cannot stay all too sweet for a long period of time).
Yeah, sure, maybe your significant other loves you with all of his/her heart, but if you can’t love that person with all your heart, then aren’t you being unfair?
How about you? Do you think you consider this as a factor in finding “the One”? Do share your comments below.